Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down.
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http://learnfriendship.blogspot.com/
Saturday, July 30, 2011
Reduce stress / More
You must never let stress get to you because when you do, your face starts to show the ravages of time. In fact, stress ages you prematurely and makes you look older than you really are, so avoid it at all costs.
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Adopt a positive attitude / More
When you think positively in any situation, when you are proactive instead of just reactive in the face of problems and during crises, you find that your frame of mind and your go-getter nature make you feel younger than ever before.
http://becomepositive.blogspot.com/
http://becomepositive.blogspot.com/
Groom yourself
You don’t have to go all out and spend every other day at the beauty salon; it’s enough to maintain your hair, face and nails so that you look neat and clean. Wear clothes and makeup that suit your body and skin tone instead of blindly following the latest trends. One more thing, ensure that your personal hygiene is up to scratch.
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Be content / How to Practice it
Being cheerful and happy makes you look and feel young. There’s nothing like a smile to light up your face and eyes and chip off those years from your birth certificate. The key to happiness is contentment with what you have and acceptance of what you get, so stay content, and stay young too.
How can you practice contentment? Here are 8 simple ways.
1. Focus on actions rather than results
Focusing on results is a sure way to experience the ups and downs of emotional roller coaster. Even worse, there is not much you can do about it since you can’t control the results. So you should focus on something you can control instead, and one thing you can certainly control is your actions.
Instead of worrying about results, spend your time thinking about what to do and how to do it. The role of results is to give you feedback to refine your actions, but no more than that. Look at the results, get feedback to refine your actions, and then focus on the actions.
2. Have fun; don’t take things too seriously
We often take things too seriously to the point of being obsessed with them. Don’t do this. Instead, make everything you do fun. Having fun will certainly makes you less stressed while at the same time make the journey much more pleasant. One way to do so is by seeing things as games; something which are fun to do despite some winnings and loses. Another way to do it is by looking for hidden pleasures in whatever you do.
3. Don’t compare yourself with others
A study shows that we care more about how much money we have relative to everyone else than we do about how much money we have. It shows our tendency to compare ourselves with others.
But, similar to #1, you should look at others only to get feedback on how to do things better. Beyond that, comparing yourself with others will only do two things:
So learn something from others, set your goals, and refine your actions. Beyond that, don’t compare yourself with others.
4. Focus on being what you love rather than being loved
One reason why we feel stressed is we are worrying too much about what other people say about us. We are busy trying to meet other people’s expectations that we may end up living someone else’s life. Don’t focus on being loved; life is too short to be spent living someone else’s life. Instead, focus on being what you love. Cultivate your passions and do what really matters to you.
5. Cultivate abundance mentality
Scarcity mentality says that there is only limited amount of resources available so that other people’s gain is your loss. Having this mentality will make you stressed, especially when your peers become more successful than you. So, cultivate abundance mentality instead. Abundance mentality says that there is enough resources for everyone; someone else’s gain is not your loss. There is enough for everyone to prosper.
6. Make failure your friend
Failure is normal part of successful life. In fact, it is a friend of successful people. I love this quote by Thomas J. Watson:
Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It’s quite simple, really. Double your rate of failure.
The more failure you make, the more likely it is that you will be successful. Make failure your friend, and it will be much easier for you to go through each one. Seeing things as games (see #2) is one way to make yourself comfortable with failure.
7. Look back and not just look ahead
Seeing how far we are from our goals may make us stressed, especially if our mind is occupied with it. So you need to also look back and see how far you have walked. What achievements have you got? What are your success stories? Remembering these will make you feel grateful for your current position in life.
8. Cultivate your enthusiasm
Enthusiasm makes you excited about life. It makes you excited about where you are now no matter how difficult the situation might seem. It energizes you to always do your best.
In fact, the ability to maintain enthusiasm despite failures and difficulties is an essential trait of successful people. As Winston Churchill said,
Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.
How can you practice contentment? Here are 8 simple ways.
1. Focus on actions rather than results
Focusing on results is a sure way to experience the ups and downs of emotional roller coaster. Even worse, there is not much you can do about it since you can’t control the results. So you should focus on something you can control instead, and one thing you can certainly control is your actions.
Instead of worrying about results, spend your time thinking about what to do and how to do it. The role of results is to give you feedback to refine your actions, but no more than that. Look at the results, get feedback to refine your actions, and then focus on the actions.
2. Have fun; don’t take things too seriously
We often take things too seriously to the point of being obsessed with them. Don’t do this. Instead, make everything you do fun. Having fun will certainly makes you less stressed while at the same time make the journey much more pleasant. One way to do so is by seeing things as games; something which are fun to do despite some winnings and loses. Another way to do it is by looking for hidden pleasures in whatever you do.
3. Don’t compare yourself with others
A study shows that we care more about how much money we have relative to everyone else than we do about how much money we have. It shows our tendency to compare ourselves with others.
But, similar to #1, you should look at others only to get feedback on how to do things better. Beyond that, comparing yourself with others will only do two things:
- Make you down, if you are worse than them.
- Boost your ego, if you are better than them. But this will only make the next failure more painful.
So learn something from others, set your goals, and refine your actions. Beyond that, don’t compare yourself with others.
4. Focus on being what you love rather than being loved
One reason why we feel stressed is we are worrying too much about what other people say about us. We are busy trying to meet other people’s expectations that we may end up living someone else’s life. Don’t focus on being loved; life is too short to be spent living someone else’s life. Instead, focus on being what you love. Cultivate your passions and do what really matters to you.
5. Cultivate abundance mentality
Scarcity mentality says that there is only limited amount of resources available so that other people’s gain is your loss. Having this mentality will make you stressed, especially when your peers become more successful than you. So, cultivate abundance mentality instead. Abundance mentality says that there is enough resources for everyone; someone else’s gain is not your loss. There is enough for everyone to prosper.
6. Make failure your friend
Failure is normal part of successful life. In fact, it is a friend of successful people. I love this quote by Thomas J. Watson:
Would you like me to give you a formula for success? It’s quite simple, really. Double your rate of failure.
The more failure you make, the more likely it is that you will be successful. Make failure your friend, and it will be much easier for you to go through each one. Seeing things as games (see #2) is one way to make yourself comfortable with failure.
7. Look back and not just look ahead
Seeing how far we are from our goals may make us stressed, especially if our mind is occupied with it. So you need to also look back and see how far you have walked. What achievements have you got? What are your success stories? Remembering these will make you feel grateful for your current position in life.
8. Cultivate your enthusiasm
Enthusiasm makes you excited about life. It makes you excited about where you are now no matter how difficult the situation might seem. It energizes you to always do your best.
In fact, the ability to maintain enthusiasm despite failures and difficulties is an essential trait of successful people. As Winston Churchill said,
Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no loss of enthusiasm.
Friday, July 29, 2011
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